Monday, March 23, 2009

Just dropped in to see what condition my condition was in

Been very active around here with no relief in sight as this week starts the really,really busy season of after-school sports. Friday is the only day off with no activities other than their school. I can't wait to finally say T.G.I.F!

Early last week, I sunk to a new low when I sparred with vileman via email. You can not reason with a psychopath.

For nine months I would ignore all the emails he would send; gaining strength each time I opened one, read it and walked away without replying. Ignoring his emails and not letting the contents of the email upset me was the true test of control.

Unfortunately, I lost that control and hit the send button on a snarky reply. Though I regret my email, it isn't because I felt guilty about telling vileman what I think of him; I regret that he knows he finally got to me. Aarrgh!

I'm stronger than that! So, I am back to reading, letting it roll off my back and duck waddling away from the computer.

11 comments:

Vickie said...

I am wondering if this is just a temporary phase (having to read his e-mails at all) - ?

Once you have all your stuff out of the house - there won't be any further reason to be in contact with him - will there?

Diana Swallow said...

I'm catching up on the past month, its been a busy time for me but I wanted to check in on you.

I don't think your reply says he got to you, I think it says you're human. You've not wasted another moment in that lie. You win.

Patience said...

Arrrrggghhh!

Can you simply block his emails? Why do you even need to see them?

Send him one final email. Tell him if he absolutely needs to contact you, he should communicate through your attorney.

Lori G. said...

Listen, we're all human and Vileman has the added bonus of knowing which buttons to push (esp. since he installed a lot of them). We all make mistakes and we can't be 100% perfect. And besides, there's nothing wrong with a little snark, fellow sister snarkster! :-)

Vickie said...

by the way - loved the title !

Anonymous said...

<3

Whatever the snark was, he deserved that and much more-

I agree with talkinf thru attorney-only if that doesn't cost more$$$

Have fun with the kiddos!

Cindy said...

Someday you will hit Delete without reading and that will feel really really good!!! Don't worry about the snark. It is only one snark after all this time..

Cindy said...

PS - I am paying five bucks a month to block the Weed from texting and calling my cell phone. It feels great and is worth the five bucks. So long as I am employed I will keep paying it. Just a thought. The blocking might be free.

Saffa Chick said...

Aaargh! I agree with the others - can you avoid reading his emails at all? It could be worth changing your email address to one he doesn't know... let your friends and family know the the new one and only check the old one when you are feeling super-strong.

You'd change your phone number if he was trying to contact you on it...

Hang in there.

Lora said...

I agree about blocking his e-mails. Out if sight...out of mind.

Laura N said...

My goodness, woman, your control thus far has been Herculian. Losing it one time shows you're human.

Your title brought memories of The Big Lebowski. Need to watch that again for a good laugh.