First, thank you all for your nice and supportive comments. The vileness of the situation is not only embarrassing - though I know we have nothing to be embarrassed about because of his actions; but also, I feel I will always be judged, as in "how could she not have known?"
The vileman was in expert in compartmentalizing. Knowing when to be "family man" and when to be "vileman". I had my suspicions, but no proof. Thankfully, he ran out of luck and was caught.
Up until I started this new blog, only my family and a few of my friends knew about our situation. I have waited seven months to start blogging the truth.
Due to the embarrassment factor, I chose to move the children and myself to my parents' house. New town and new schools where no one has to know about vileman.
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Last spring, I purchased new shorts for 12 Y/O (who was 11 at that time), all of them a size 12. None of them fit - too tight. He went from a size boys 10 to 14, skipping size 12. He was in no way chubby or husky or plump.
Anyway, this past summer I noticed his belly was poochy and even saw a few cellulite patches. We of course, had a traumatic summer where we fled away from our home, the neighborhood swimming pool, greenbelt trails and a YMCA membership. So I was hoping he wouldn't be the new "fat" kid by the time school started. I think he might have weighed 110 pounds by the end of August and at 5 foot even, that is still no where near being fat. I was just worried about the belly unfitness (my problem).
School starts and up here, the kids have PE more than twice a week. And "coach" is lazy. He just looks like a former high school athlete who drank one too many beers. But he makes the kids run laps, do sit-ups and push ups.
Add karate lessons twice a week, by Thanksgiving, 12 Y/O had the makings of a six pack (I have a pony keg). His biceps and triceps have definition, thanks to those knuckle push-ups and planks.
A couple of weeks ago, I noticed his jeans were baggy (size boys 14's) and asked him to get on the scale.
101.4 pounds.
All I could think: "I sure wished I had started doing what he was doing back at the end of August."
Now is my chance.
Start today.
And in six months, I'm going to be telling myself "I'm so glad I finally started."
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9 comments:
Good luck with it, I think you'll surprise yourself.
Re: your comment, thanks, but I h=only have myself to worry about so I can 'go without' a lot of the time and not care to much. I'd imagine having kids makes that a lot harder because they're more of a money drain and you want them to be able to have everything.
you have done so well through all of this !!! - looking forward to hearing about your next steps.
And don't ever feel that you should have known - 'they' are very good at what they do - and putting on lots of different faces. Be thankful (I know you are) - not embarrassed.
Look at you!! You're zooming forward! Life is going to be good for you and yours!
Yay!!! Good for you - this will energize you and give you back so much of what was taken from you.
Are you ready to Shred, sister? ;)
I have made incredible progress in just one month, so yes, you can do amazing things in six months!
Thank you so much for commenting over my way so that I could "find" you again!
I never guessed vileman was up to that!!! God. You poor thing. Thank heavens he is now out of your lives for good.
Do it, girl!
You can do it, and we will all be here with you!
I just wanted to say that I have NEVER thought "how could she not have known?" This situation is in no way your fault, which I know you know, but I just wanted to tell you that.
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